I am a Military wife determined to tackle this 2nd Deployment with a positive attitude.
I believe that being happy, productive and proactive during deployment is a choice.
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and just so you’re aware, problems are not “my husband is working late and missed dinner”
“my husband has duty on valentines day”
“they’re canceling the ball because the Marines are going to be deployed.”
“we didn’t get to skype tonight!”
Problems are also not “my husbands pay was cut because he was NJPed / court marshaled / lost an expensive piece of gear.” Ryan lost a piece his gear in Afganiatan. We were responsible for paying back the $500 that it cost to replace them. It sucked but it wasn’t the USMC’s fault.
Anyways back to “real problems.” things like.. I have no friends, no job, no hobby, no life because the Military makes me live 20 Million miles from home.
First of all. Everyday that you wake up and decide to be with your spouse is a day that YOU are responsible for where you live. The Military doesn’t force you to live with them.
Second of all, to an extent, I can understand no friends / job / hobbies. When you get to a new place it is tough getting your roots planted. But at a certain point you have got to own your circumstances. Friends don’t magically appear in your apartment living room. You have to go knock on your neighbors door, or go to the Gym, or the park, or the family readiness class. You have got to put yourself out there. That is the only way to meet people!
Jobs can be hard to. Maybe you have a degree, or a good work history, and you’re to over qualified for a job at the Exchange, the daycares, the restaurants, or the retail shops. What’s the harm in getting a job that you’re overqualified for until something better opens up? A paycheck is never a bad thing! You only have one car? I know my husband can carpool. Like 15 people in his shop live on our street! Ask your spouse to see if anyone lives in the area! You have a small child? Maybe try working from home!
My point is STOP BLAMING THE MILITARY!!! You have got to own your situation at some point. Stop the pity parties and the woe is me life is so hard talk and figure out a way to make it work!! There are solutions for EVERYTHING. I promise. If you’re stuck in a rut and need help. My ask box is wide open.
This concludes my slightly ranty grammatically incorrect post about things that I am sick of people doing.
“The Marines I have seen around the world have the cleanest bodies, the filthiest minds, the highest morale, and the lowest morals of any group of animals I have ever seen. Thank God for the United States Marine Corps!”
YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG.
“The change went into effect immediately and reduces the maximum education assistance available from the Department of Defense standard of $3,500 per year to just $875 per year for Marines — about enough to cover two university courses,…
Not to mention the fact that College was one way to increase your composite score. The Big Green Weenie just got longer, and thicker.
and I made the comment about how the fact my husband is deployed hasn’t really hit me yet.
She laughed and said “Kristen, by the time it hits you, he’ll be on his way home.”
I hope I am that lucky.